There is something amazing about letting go of your baggage.

Its like when you clean out your shelves in the pantry, or throw out a bunch of old clothes. It’s a blissful feeling of being cleansed of something that was cluttering our lives.

When I became a mum, I started a journey of self-discovery.

I was forced too.

I was a new person as soon as my son came I to the world.

In a split second (or 48 hours), my values changed, my awareness of the world changed, and my vision became clearer for who I wanted to be, and especially who I would surround myself with.

My first 3 months as a mum, saw about 3 of my close friends go MIA.

I had just popped out a baby, gone through a HUGE life event, then boom.

There was no visit, no phone calls, just. nothing.

Like I had vanished of the face of earth, but in reality, I needed friends more than ever.

I was shocked at first, really gutted that people can just throw you to the side because your no longer able to be the designated driver, now you have to be home with a baby.

Shocked that I thought I had a SOLID support system, when obviously I was blinded by my own low self-esteem, to notice they were very one-sided friendships.

After sitting around a bit grim for a few months, it became so aware to me that I had really misaligned values with these friends, that I had been riddled by self-doubt, being insecure and unsure of myself to cloud the reality of being unhappy with my ‘support system’.

So that baggage was dropped, and I reached out to others, created a whole new mum gang, put my energy into finding myself, doing what made ME happy, and saying goodbye to anyone that brought negativity to my new life as a mama.

My son has taught me lots of things, but the best thing he ever did for me, was cleanse my life of the people that didn’t align with me, the ones who dragged me down and the ones who have still not contacted me now he is 2 years and 8 months old.

BYE FELICIA.

Thank you, my son, you taught me to know my worth.

Written by Sally from @mama_sallyharding on Instagram